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 Catching A Cheat. It’s not that hard to do.

What are some of the tell-tale “signs” of the Cheating Spouse?

The Cheating spouse is often distracted and day dreaming.

Cheating husband or wife is often “unavailable” when you call their work.

Cheating spouse when attending functions outside of work wants to go alone.

Phone calls (regular or cell) from you are not returned in timely fashion.

Cheating spouse leaves house or goes to another room to talk on the telephone.

Cheating spouse uses computer alone and secretly (ie. Goes to the local library to use the computer).

Cheating spouse asks about your schedule more often than usual.

Mileage on car is high yet he / she reports only short distance errands.

Cheating spouse gets his / her laundry done independently.

Cheating spouse is often the one nagging and their argument levels increase sometimes

dramatically.

The reason is that consciously or not, the cheating spouse is comparing you to the other

person.

As their attitude reveals you are coming up short in their eyes. They are in that phase where

the “other person” can do no wrong.

Every time the two of them are together it is “magic”.

They resent the reality under which you are forcing them to live.

It is not like you are the one running around breaking the marriage vows.

They know that but from their stand-point, you are the one who stands in the way of their

happiness. So it’s only “poetic justice” that you get grief for your actions.

But, what if it’s just suspicions? What if you just have that “feeling” that somethings not

right? How will you tell.

This blog is published for those of you who have doubts. Who’d like some answers and solutions

from those who’ve gone through it or know someone who is or has.

There are quite a few Professional Guides available that will give you a “Game Plan” of action.

Here are some that we recommend:

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    Steps

    The first step in the process is to file a petition to ask the court for a divorce.  This document will state for the court what the grounds are for the divorce.  The court has to be convinces that there are irreconcilable differences between the two parties so that the divorce is the only remedy to the situation.

    Another part of the divorce process is to ask the court for temporary orders, such as the need for support by a custodial parent, or in a situation where one of the spouses did not work outside of the home.  These orders are usually filed and granted within a few days so that the individual can have what is needed to survive while the divorce process is being completed.

    The next step of the divorce procedure is the service of process where the individual who filed for the divorce must get the divorce petition to the other party’s lawyer so that they are fully informed of all the documents that have been filed.Once that paperwork has been received by the other party, then they must file a response to the petition.  If there is any defense needed or any disagreement, this is where that would be filed.

    Once the response is obtained, then the parties can begin the final negotiations about any points of contention in the petitions.  The usual points of contention in a divorce have to do with property division, custody and visitation of children, and spousal support.  If these issues cannot be resolved outside of the courtroom then the divorce proceedings start to settle them there.  If they can be settled outside of the court, then the parties can submit an order of dissolution to the court for approval.


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    4   Stop A Divorce Tips

    Do Things With Love

    One thing to remember is that marriages aren’t jobs and one of the simplest ways to wreck a marriage is by making everything feel like an obligation. It is important to find the give-and-take balance in your relationship but everything should be done willingly and from the heart.

    Can you remember back to the time when you were head-over-heels in love and couldn’t get enough of one another? You spoke fervently about marriage including the life you would share together. Nothing mattered more than being joined together in holy matrimony. You’d never have thought that a day would come when you couldn’t even sleep in the same bed together because you’re the one always cleaning the house & your spouse can’t even get the trash out..

    When doing things that will please your partner, it’s because of your affection for them and you want nothing but to make them happy. You shouldn’t be running a mental list of all the wonderful things you’ve done and all the things that haven’t been done for you. Every relationship takes work, although it doesn’t have to feel like work.

    Stop Nagging

    We all know what nagging sounds like. Men and women are equally guilty of this. Wives hate extended working hours, leaving unclean clothes on the ground, the amount of time spent on sports TV and drinking or failing to spend worthwhile time with the family. On the flip side, most husbands nag about how much time their wife wastes on the telephone or getting prepared, and they complain about their grumbling wife! A quick way to fix marriage issues is to merely to stop nagging. Know that nagging will not get anything achieved.

    If there’s something you hate about your partner or their habits, try to determine what the root of your concern. Question yourself why this troubles you and why are they behaving this way. Could you be at fault ? What can you do that will help the matter? What agreements are you willing to make? Ask yourself, What can I do to mend this relationship? Be reasonable and talk with your partner about it. Excessive complaining can cause great conflict to your relationship.

    Think Before Speaking

    Whenever you are feeling angry or bitter, try to remember that saying spiteful or hurtful things will not repair your marriage problems. It will only make matters worse. Think before you speak since you can never take back your words. Will hurting your spouse make you feel better ? Of course not! There’s no reason for unkind words to come out at all.

    Nothing’s wrong about wanting to confront your spouse concerning things that are bothersome to you. However, you must do so after your anger and aggression has silenced and you can discuss the matter rationally.

    Mending a marriage is never one-sided. For a marriage to be successful, a shared desire to make compromises should be present. As long as this commitment remains true in your heart, no mountain is too big to climb.

    Avoid Verbal Abuse

    Be cautious and avoid verbally abusing your spouse. Words can be devastating, especially in a marriage. Are you someone who loses his/her temper easily and is prone to lash out at your partner? Then maybe it’s time to change your behavior. Ultimately, the verbal abuse will cause an emotional toll on you and/or your spouse. You might think that they were “just words”, but I promise you, your partner won’t forget it..

    For the person hearing those harsh words, the pain of verbal abuse can be a great burden and be very hard to forget. Verbal abuse of any kind must be controlled if  you wish to fix the problems between you and your spouse.

    These are a few of many examples of what can tear a marriage apart. These behaviors are hurtful, as well as disrespectful. If you love your spouse, then why would you like to wound their heart or disrespect them? If you truly wish for a healthy, happy relationship, ask yourself if you doing things similar to the examples above. If your answer is yes, then you should do anything in your power to create change. Your marriage will thank you!


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    Anger, betrayal, tension, heartache, pain – these are the common expression attached with cheating.  You can even feel depressed and isolated that the person you loved so much has done this to you.  But there is no use of negative feelings, you must know how to get over a cheating spouse and move on with your life.  Finally you should be happy, either in or out of marriage.

    This is a painful time, and many things will be said and done that may be regretted later by both parties. It is important to remember that you are entitled to feel angry and hurt. But you must decide if your marriage is worth trying to save or if the pain is just too much to bear.

    If both you and your spouse have discussed and want to keep the marriage going, do it.  You may have to change some things after this incident though.  You can also take assistance of marriage counseling and talk to relationship experts to cope with the situation.  As they are experts, they can teach you smart ways and techniques of dealing with infidelity without harming your marriage.  Of course confidentiality will be maintained and many counselors have brought couples back together like before.  It depends on you and your spouse.  Unless you are going to be absolutely honest with your counselor, its not worth booking a session.

    Of course, there is the possibility that you are too hurt to tolerate the touch of the offending spouse. You can’t even look at him/her without thinking of the pain you feel because your trust has been violated. Taking some time apart for both of you to examine your feelings may allow some cooling down of the anger and dull the pain to a point that allows you to work toward saving your marriage.

    If this is not the case, and the pain and anger are just too much, it may be best for all concerned to make a clean break and get on with your life. If you decide that your marriage is over, try to avoid fighting with your spouse, just get apart and let your lawyers negotiate a division of assets and start your life over. If you have children, make it clear to them that they are not at fault in any way. Explain to them that you aren’t able to continue living together as man and wife, but you both still love them. That’s why it’s important to know how to get over a cheating spouse.

    There are quite a few Professional Guides available that will give you a “Game Plan” of action.

    Here are some that we recommend:

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        Marital affairs have devastating effects on the people involved. People get too settled into their relationships to watch for signs of dissatisfaction and neglect. The results of an affair are deep and intense. Betrayal isn’t easy to handle, and many lives have been ruined beyond repair with one instance of cheating.   

        It’s a combination of betrayal and broken trust, jealousy, deep emotional shock, and mental disturbance. Humiliation and despair are two other common emotions resulting from an affair. The sexual act looms large in the mind, like a giant tormenter that won’t go away.   

        Marriage is a sacred trust. No-one should have to worry about their spouse ever having an extra-marital affair. There’s no freedom in that way of life, only bondage and mental anguish. And when searching for answers as to why, they can be many fold, and some not even thought of.   

        Many times things like drinking can be involved. But why are they drinking? Is it because of you? Did they drink before you met? It’s a lifestyle for some of the baby boomers, and it seems to be an accepted reason in many circles for misbehaving. “Oh, I was drunk. I don’t remember.”   

        The questions begin to arise, about what could have been done differently to avoid this. Is there some attention in a certain area that they needed that I missed, or are they simply bored and tired of this marriage? It’ really difficult to nail down the exact reason for the violation.   

        The partner who has been faithful and who’s loved one had an extra-marital affair, feels really de-valued. Their sense of worth that was given them by their partner has been shattered. Communication is broken between them, and resolving the issue becomes extremely difficult.   

        Intimacy, once lost, is rarely recovered fully. Time can lessen the pain, but forgetting it altogether just won’t happen. It’s something that you have to learn to live with if you’re going to continue on, but most of the time divorce becomes a desired solution.   

        You should never let down your guard when it comes to being sensitive to your spouse’s needs. Watch for little signals, and learn what they are, so you’ll know when they need some extra care in a certain area. Marriage is work, but the rewards are worth it. You just can’t relax and take things for granted.   

        Being honest with yourself and your spouse is the only way to keep things on a workable field. Let them know how you feel about things, and both sides should always hold the fact that nobody is perfect, and by expecting too much from your mate, you can cause just as many problems. Realize you’re both human and prone to mistakes, and don’t hold grudges that shut down communication.   

        Before things end up in an extra marital affair, take a long look at your spouse, and remember all the love and splendor of your earlier times. Don’t forsake the love that’s been given you. It’s not everyone who will love you like that, and plan a life together with you. It’s not to be taken lightly. Be an equal, but never over-power, and never shut off even the slightest communications. Don’t be caught unaware.

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